A charming personality is a huge asset. By charming I not only mean the appearance of a person but their traits as well.
Everybody loves to be around a person whom they look up to for something or other.
Whether you have great looks, a great sense of humor, an emphatic listening ability or a tendency to reach out to others in crisis, there are many ways to make a difference to lives of people around you.
This is what makes you a great and lovable person.
In this guide, I’m sharing some of the top secrets on how to improve your personality.
Each point talks about achieving something special to bring the best out of you and make you feel appreciated by others.
How to Groom Yourself
What is the first thing you notice about someone you’ve never met before? Yes, it’s their looks and appearance.
You can say the same thing about others too because, more or less, we all perceive everybody the same way, especially if we’ve never met them before. It’s a basic human behavioral pattern to judge people based on the way they look.
And, as they say, the first impression leaves a strong impact on their mind, based on which they continue to judge our other traits as we get along with them moving forward.
Armed with a well-groomed personality, you make a strong first impression in many aspects of your life – win new friends, get attention from your peers, build a strong candidature in job interviews, and become popular among your co-workers. There are, of course, many other things that come in between.
So, whether we like it or not, grooming ourselves and improving our appearance is the first and foremost thing we must do to improve our personality.
Here are some grooming tips to build a magnetic personality for both men and women.
How to Speak Well In a Conversation
Conversation is an art of communicating with others which speaks a lot about our personality.
This is a way of keeping others engaged while you speak what you feel. And when you speak well, it not only reflects how much and how well you know, but it makes you a person people tend to look up to.
Therefore, achieving a good speaking ability is essential in order to strengthen your personality.
Your speaking skills are developed by how much you read and consume on a daily basis and what are the sources of information. Read a lot from authentic sources. It will help widen your perspective and provide clarity of thoughts. So you can contribute well in the discussion and add value.
Consider the content of your speech, use right words and maintain brevity depending on the demographics of your listeners.
Articulation plays a significant role in every conversation. The way you elaborate should not include any artificial trait or bluff.
You should never sound arrogant while speaking. Try to be gentle and soft with the words. At the same be confident enough to convince your listeners.
A dash of humor while speaking is a great way to connect with people. But make sure it’s healthy and added in right amount. Too much humor and satire may hurt other’s sentiments.
Here are some useful articles on how to speak well in a conversation.
- How to Speak Well… and Listen Better
- How to Have a Great Conversation
How to Be a Good Listener
Listing is a key skill to achieve a great personality.
When it comes to a conversation, everybody wants to be heard but very few listen to them with patience and empathy.
As per a research by Write State University, an average person listens at only about 25% efficiency.
Listening is not easy – it require emphasizing with the speaker at an emotional level. Moreover, it requires active listening and asking the right questions to let the speaker express themselves comfortably.
We have written a few guides for you to learn how to be good at listening. Check them out below:
How to Be Humble yet Confident and Polite
Humility is a strange thing; the more you think you have it, the more lose it.
Being humble is the hallmark of great personality. So is being confident. The point is you need to learn how to strike the perfect balance between being humble while remaining confident. Don’t stress yourself over walking the tightrope.
The fact is you need to learn how to act according to the situation without compromising with your self-esteem.
In this must-read post, Lifehack author Scott H Young suggest the following technique to remain humble, confident and polite all at the same time.
The next time you are about to enter into an interaction ask yourself why you are doing it. Are you trying to persuade or learn? Depending on which you can take a completely different tact for far better results.
If you want to learn more about how to stay stumble, read this Wikihow Guide on humility.
How to Be Calm, Confident in Every Situation
There’s a famous quote by Jack Nicholson in the movie Anger Management. He says, “Temper’s the one thing you can’t get rid of, by losing it”
No matter how calm, cool and collected we are, we all can get worked up at times for various reasons. However, the trick is to handle our temper correctly.
Successful people can remain calm in the face of most provocative situations. So, how do they do it?
Is it because they have been there many times before?
Maybe!
But, still, what keeps them so calm, confident and peaceful in every situation? I mean every single time!
It’s because they don’t allow the situations to get to them. They believe in themselves and don’t let the negative thoughts thwart their next course of action. When faced with a crisis, they follow the simple philosophy to resolving issues – taking one corrective step at a time and then going about the business as usual.
As a matter of fact, this is how it works for them and that’s what make them so calm, confident and peaceful in every situation.
As they say, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
If you’re someone who tends to get jittery at the drop of a hat, Remez Sasson, the founder of Success Consciousness has some effective tips for you to help you calm your mind.
How to Be Humorous In Social Situations
Why is sense of humor such a big deal at all?
Picture this scenario.
You are in a stressful scenario and then someone cracks a joke about something, making you break into a laughter.
You feel much lighter, right?
You’re right – laughter is a therapy and those who have the right sense of humor are sort of doctors. And, who doesn’t want to have doctors around them!
Having a sense of humor is a great thing – it makes everyday life easy to deal with and keeps everybody around you happy.
But’s it’s easier said than done.
While being humorous is a great way to improve your personality, it’s something you can’t acquire overnight.
Some folks have a knack for humor in almost every situation while others find it hard to come up with something funny.
But that’s okay.
If you’re not naturally equipped with a sense of humor, you don’t have to try too hard.
Gina Poirier, in this insightful post, suggests you should explore yourself fully and be comfortable with yourself in every situation. More often than not, we find ourselves too serious or stressed out to find humor around us. But, as Mel Brooks puts it, “life’s literally abounds in comedy if you just look around you.”
If you learn to take life easily, you will find humor in people who are rather serious and often act in strange ways for the same reasons.
When it comes to humor, trust your gut instinct and look around yourself and blurt it out at the right moment.
Read these posts to learn more about being funny:
Bottomline
Developing a great personality is a life-long process and it requires heightened awareness of people around you. It’s about winning trust, managing expectations and reaching out to them when they need you.
With the above personality improvement tips in mind, it’s time to step out and win others over naturally.